Comments on: Narcissism is good for success http://kontrary.com/2007/09/04/narcissism-is-good-for-success/ Kontrary provides a different take on tech, media and life by Rebecca Thorman. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 02:58:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Jen http://kontrary.com/2007/09/04/narcissism-is-good-for-success/#comment-1194 Jen Thu, 20 May 2010 16:34:13 +0000 http://kontrary.com/2007/09/04/narcissism-is-good-for-success/#comment-1194 I mean this in the most endearing way possible, but you are so narcisstic that your post was actually annoying! :D But you know what? More power to you! After YEARS, I have just discovered that narcissism is a GOOD thing! I won't go into too much detail, but I never had a good support system (or even a mediocre one lol). No one to tell me that I was "good" (in whatever context). I recently realized that I am textbook people-pleaser. Always wanting to be liked, yearning for acceptance, putting others before myself, etc. Not surprisingly, I always ended up on the outside, looking in. The "self centered" people always had "it" whether it be friends, respect, title, etc. I hated these people yet I envied them so much. I couldn't quite put my finger on it but I knew it wasn't just a matter of self confidence or self esteem. It's narcissism! I need to KNOW that I am good looking and funny. I need to KNOW that I deserve better. I need to KNOW that I will succeed. I need to stop giving a rat's a$$ about what others think of me and to be my own cheerleader! Another very important trait about healthy narcissists is that even in bad times, they don't let themselves fall into the trap of being the victim. They don't let things bother them whereas I let would let even the littlest things eat me up inside. Well, not anymore! No more negativity. No more feeling sorry for myself. No more beating myself up for my perceived short comings. I I am going to celebrate ME. I'm going to throw a party in my honor. Why? Because. I'm freaking AWESOME! :) I mean this in the most endearing way possible, but you are so narcisstic that your post was actually annoying! :D But you know what? More power to you! After YEARS, I have just discovered that narcissism is a GOOD thing! I won’t go into too much detail, but I never had a good support system (or even a mediocre one lol). No one to tell me that I was “good” (in whatever context). I recently realized that I am textbook people-pleaser. Always wanting to be liked, yearning for acceptance, putting others before myself, etc. Not surprisingly, I always ended up on the outside, looking in. The “self centered” people always had “it” whether it be friends, respect, title, etc. I hated these people yet I envied them so much. I couldn’t quite put my finger on it but I knew it wasn’t just a matter of self confidence or self esteem. It’s narcissism! I need to KNOW that I am good looking and funny. I need to KNOW that I deserve better. I need to KNOW that I will succeed. I need to stop giving a rat’s a$$ about what others think of me and to be my own cheerleader! Another very important trait about healthy narcissists is that even in bad times, they don’t let themselves fall into the trap of being the victim. They don’t let things bother them whereas I let would let even the littlest things eat me up inside. Well, not anymore! No more negativity. No more feeling sorry for myself. No more beating myself up for my perceived short comings. I I am going to celebrate ME. I’m going to throw a party in my honor. Why? Because. I’m freaking AWESOME! :)

]]> By: jayswear http://kontrary.com/2007/09/04/narcissism-is-good-for-success/#comment-1193 jayswear Wed, 21 Apr 2010 17:29:24 +0000 http://kontrary.com/2007/09/04/narcissism-is-good-for-success/#comment-1193 Do you believe that our lives are paths made up of small stepping stones that are difficult to spot when we are blundering ahead full speed? I do. Rebecca, your messae here is one of my stepping stones now. Currently going through a divorce, a good friend of mine told me yesterday that I need to forget about my negatives and focus on my positives. My thought was "if I do that, how will I ever fix myself?" Your message helped me to see what she meant. I may be narcissistic, but that doesn't have to be a bad thing. In fact, I should be happy I have <i>something</i> to drive me forward, when so many others do not. So, watch out world. . . And to anyone who comes to this stepping stone after me, let me carve a little reminder into it: <b><i>Temet Nosce</i></b> Do you believe that our lives are paths made up of small stepping stones that are difficult to spot when we are blundering ahead full speed? I do.

Rebecca, your messae here is one of my stepping stones now. Currently going through a divorce, a good friend of mine told me yesterday that I need to forget about my negatives and focus on my positives. My thought was “if I do that, how will I ever fix myself?”

Your message helped me to see what she meant. I may be narcissistic, but that doesn’t have to be a bad thing. In fact, I should be happy I have something to drive me forward, when so many others do not.

So, watch out world. . . And to anyone who comes to this stepping stone after me, let me carve a little reminder into it:

Temet Nosce

]]> By: Michelle http://kontrary.com/2007/09/04/narcissism-is-good-for-success/#comment-1192 Michelle Sat, 16 Jan 2010 17:53:03 +0000 http://kontrary.com/2007/09/04/narcissism-is-good-for-success/#comment-1192 I adore this. Thank you. I adore this. Thank you.

]]> By: Is Gen Y teamwork killing creativity? | Modite http://kontrary.com/2007/09/04/narcissism-is-good-for-success/#comment-1191 Is Gen Y teamwork killing creativity? | Modite Fri, 09 Oct 2009 21:16:54 +0000 http://kontrary.com/2007/09/04/narcissism-is-good-for-success/#comment-1191 [...] do such a good job breeding mediocrity that we can’t be so afraid to be alone and listen to the sound of our own voice and let out a real note while we lip-synch. March to the [...] [...] do such a good job breeding mediocrity that we can’t be so afraid to be alone and listen to the sound of our own voice and let out a real note while we lip-synch. March to the [...]

]]> By: rolfen http://kontrary.com/2007/09/04/narcissism-is-good-for-success/#comment-1190 rolfen Fri, 29 Aug 2008 11:46:51 +0000 http://kontrary.com/2007/09/04/narcissism-is-good-for-success/#comment-1190 When that happens, I remind myself that most of the things we worry about never happen. Worrying about those things only clouds judgement and wastes time. I'll have to burn this in my unconscious mind... in fact I believe the opposite... and maybe that's my problem. When that happens, I remind myself that most of the things we worry about never happen. Worrying about those things only clouds judgement and wastes time.

I’ll have to burn this in my unconscious mind… in fact I believe the opposite… and maybe that’s my problem.

]]> By: rolfen http://kontrary.com/2007/09/04/narcissism-is-good-for-success/#comment-1189 rolfen Fri, 29 Aug 2008 11:43:23 +0000 http://kontrary.com/2007/09/04/narcissism-is-good-for-success/#comment-1189 Narcissism without courage/self confidence (especially courage to change) becomes a pathology... you stagnate in your own thinking all day long, finding excuses for everything, and fall in love with your dreams and your unhealthy mind. Narcissism without courage/self confidence (especially courage to change) becomes a pathology… you stagnate in your own thinking all day long, finding excuses for everything, and fall in love with your dreams and your unhealthy mind.

]]> By: What Generation Y Fears Most : Brazen Careerist http://kontrary.com/2007/09/04/narcissism-is-good-for-success/#comment-1188 What Generation Y Fears Most : Brazen Careerist Wed, 28 May 2008 11:32:15 +0000 http://kontrary.com/2007/09/04/narcissism-is-good-for-success/#comment-1188 [...] struggle less than another, we put down our own struggle as unimportant. And it’s really important to figure out ourselves. If I’ve learned anything over the past year, it’s that people react most violently against [...] [...] struggle less than another, we put down our own struggle as unimportant. And it’s really important to figure out ourselves. If I’ve learned anything over the past year, it’s that people react most violently against [...]

]]> By: Modite - Don’t make career plans – here’s why http://kontrary.com/2007/09/04/narcissism-is-good-for-success/#comment-1187 Modite - Don’t make career plans – here’s why Mon, 31 Mar 2008 04:16:46 +0000 http://kontrary.com/2007/09/04/narcissism-is-good-for-success/#comment-1187 [...] only in control of yourself. You may have goals, but unless you’re ruthless with yourself and who you are - your abilities, your strengths, your weaknesses - you’re not going to get [...] [...] only in control of yourself. You may have goals, but unless you’re ruthless with yourself and who you are – your abilities, your strengths, your weaknesses – you’re not going to get [...]

]]> By: Modite - What gives you the right to be a young leader http://kontrary.com/2007/09/04/narcissism-is-good-for-success/#comment-1186 Modite - What gives you the right to be a young leader Thu, 01 Nov 2007 03:41:19 +0000 http://kontrary.com/2007/09/04/narcissism-is-good-for-success/#comment-1186 [...] You won’t have all the skills, and perhaps it’s easier to think about it as if you’re a leader in training. But if you make that commitment, you’re already miles ahead of everyone else. And the others will follow. Because you believe in yourself. And that’s half the battle to believing in others. [...] [...] You won’t have all the skills, and perhaps it’s easier to think about it as if you’re a leader in training. But if you make that commitment, you’re already miles ahead of everyone else. And the others will follow. Because you believe in yourself. And that’s half the battle to believing in others. [...]

]]> By: Modite - Engagement for the next generation http://kontrary.com/2007/09/04/narcissism-is-good-for-success/#comment-1185 Modite - Engagement for the next generation Mon, 22 Oct 2007 12:55:30 +0000 http://kontrary.com/2007/09/04/narcissism-is-good-for-success/#comment-1185 [...] The Generation Y woman has leadership and strength, and promotes community and empathy. We don’t dismiss motherhood, but embrace our strengths and use those to change the workplace, reaping from it a greater sense of fulfillment than ever before. [...] [...] The Generation Y woman has leadership and strength, and promotes community and empathy. We don’t dismiss motherhood, but embrace our strengths and use those to change the workplace, reaping from it a greater sense of fulfillment than ever before. [...]

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