Comments on: Trying isn’t good enough http://kontrary.com/2009/05/26/trying-isnt-good-enough/ Kontrary provides a different take on tech, media and life by Rebecca Thorman. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 02:58:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Anil Sharma http://kontrary.com/2009/05/26/trying-isnt-good-enough/#comment-6753 Anil Sharma Thu, 14 Jul 2011 15:08:00 +0000 http://kontrary.com/2009/05/26/trying-isnt-good-enough/#comment-6753 "All the information on how to get your dream house is there for you on this blog. Take a look and and you will find all that you need to know." <a href="http://gtawebdesign.co/free-web-design/" rel="nofollow">Web Design In Toronto</a> “All the information on how to get your dream house is there for you on this blog. Take a look and and you will find all that you need to know.”

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]]> By: One Guy, One Girl, Two Start-Ups and a Relationship | Modite http://kontrary.com/2009/05/26/trying-isnt-good-enough/#comment-4526 One Guy, One Girl, Two Start-Ups and a Relationship | Modite Wed, 10 Feb 2010 20:45:42 +0000 http://kontrary.com/2009/05/26/trying-isnt-good-enough/#comment-4526 [...] Up until a year ago, both competed for my attention, each piling weight onto the seesaw to rise towards the favored position. A year ago, however, I started working at Alice and Ryan and I started hitting our stride (both of which were not without challenges, however… many, many challenges). [...] [...] Up until a year ago, both competed for my attention, each piling weight onto the seesaw to rise towards the favored position. A year ago, however, I started working at Alice and Ryan and I started hitting our stride (both of which were not without challenges, however… many, many challenges). [...]

]]> By: The bastardization of authenticity | Modite http://kontrary.com/2009/05/26/trying-isnt-good-enough/#comment-4525 The bastardization of authenticity | Modite Tue, 08 Dec 2009 05:25:01 +0000 http://kontrary.com/2009/05/26/trying-isnt-good-enough/#comment-4525 [...] because you told me of your heartbreak, or your success or your disease or your strengths or your weaknesses or miscarriage or move or relationship or promotion or demotion or disability or conflict or how [...] [...] because you told me of your heartbreak, or your success or your disease or your strengths or your weaknesses or miscarriage or move or relationship or promotion or demotion or disability or conflict or how [...]

]]> By: How to pitch for what you want | Modite http://kontrary.com/2009/05/26/trying-isnt-good-enough/#comment-4524 How to pitch for what you want | Modite Thu, 04 Jun 2009 04:01:44 +0000 http://kontrary.com/2009/05/26/trying-isnt-good-enough/#comment-4524 [...] Be specific. People can’t read minds. Trust me, I’ve tested every boyfriend I’ve had. [...] [...] Be specific. People can’t read minds. Trust me, I’ve tested every boyfriend I’ve had. [...]

]]> By: Ryan Stephens Marketing » Top 10 Gen Y Blogs: June 2009 http://kontrary.com/2009/05/26/trying-isnt-good-enough/#comment-4523 Ryan Stephens Marketing » Top 10 Gen Y Blogs: June 2009 Wed, 03 Jun 2009 00:47:31 +0000 http://kontrary.com/2009/05/26/trying-isnt-good-enough/#comment-4523 [...] From 8, to 6, to 3, Rebecca just keeps climbing the Gen Y top blogs ladder. Like Nisha, I’m running out of nice things to say and she didn’t add any new features like vlogging or agree/disagree this month, but it doesn’t take most readers long to realize Rebecca has a wealth of experience, a great since of practicality and a phenomenal ability to convey her messages to her readers. If you did an average comment per post, I suspect Modite’s ratio is higher than most on this list so evidently what she’s writing is resonating with her readers. Besides, by now we all know that just trying isn’t good enough. [...] [...] From 8, to 6, to 3, Rebecca just keeps climbing the Gen Y top blogs ladder. Like Nisha, I’m running out of nice things to say and she didn’t add any new features like vlogging or agree/disagree this month, but it doesn’t take most readers long to realize Rebecca has a wealth of experience, a great since of practicality and a phenomenal ability to convey her messages to her readers. If you did an average comment per post, I suspect Modite’s ratio is higher than most on this list so evidently what she’s writing is resonating with her readers. Besides, by now we all know that just trying isn’t good enough. [...]

]]> By: Kirstin Butler http://kontrary.com/2009/05/26/trying-isnt-good-enough/#comment-4522 Kirstin Butler Tue, 02 Jun 2009 16:04:42 +0000 http://kontrary.com/2009/05/26/trying-isnt-good-enough/#comment-4522 Hi Rebecca--so many of your words in this post articulated things that I've felt. I'm so sorry you lost your father already. I've also thought about my mom's death as an inflection point in my life, after which I've only known "messed up" as a basis for experience. But surely the fact that you're able to recognize that event's impact on your life, and that you're able to write about it so bravely and beautifully, testifies to some kind of healing. To echo others' comments here I don't know that "normal" exists, but I'm very grateful to read your dispatches from the abnormal! Hi Rebecca–so many of your words in this post articulated things that I’ve felt. I’m so sorry you lost your father already. I’ve also thought about my mom’s death as an inflection point in my life, after which I’ve only known “messed up” as a basis for experience.

But surely the fact that you’re able to recognize that event’s impact on your life, and that you’re able to write about it so bravely and beautifully, testifies to some kind of healing. To echo others’ comments here I don’t know that “normal” exists, but I’m very grateful to read your dispatches from the abnormal!

]]> By: Josh Lavik http://kontrary.com/2009/05/26/trying-isnt-good-enough/#comment-4521 Josh Lavik Thu, 28 May 2009 14:37:30 +0000 http://kontrary.com/2009/05/26/trying-isnt-good-enough/#comment-4521 Normal...eh, that's funny. It reminds me of a book I came across once titled, "Everybody's Normal Til You Get to Know Them". I've never read it, but I think it's probably true. We all have our crap, our issues, our messed up lives, or warped sense of reality. Maybe the first step is simply admitting that "Normal" is admitting our shortcomings. That's one thing I've noticed you do very well on this blog. You have a tremendous sense of openness and try very hard to be transparent. I'm not sure many others in this world have the courage to do that. Normal…eh, that’s funny. It reminds me of a book I came across once titled, “Everybody’s Normal Til You Get to Know Them”. I’ve never read it, but I think it’s probably true. We all have our crap, our issues, our messed up lives, or warped sense of reality. Maybe the first step is simply admitting that “Normal” is admitting our shortcomings. That’s one thing I’ve noticed you do very well on this blog. You have a tremendous sense of openness and try very hard to be transparent. I’m not sure many others in this world have the courage to do that.

]]> By: Grace Boyle http://kontrary.com/2009/05/26/trying-isnt-good-enough/#comment-4520 Grace Boyle Thu, 28 May 2009 05:50:21 +0000 http://kontrary.com/2009/05/26/trying-isnt-good-enough/#comment-4520 {Insert my thoughts here}: Do we create this idea of normality in our mind, then say I will never or will definitely have that? What the hell is normal anyway? I too, am echoing each reader that I'm happy you were brave and posted this. Honesty is raw and truth alone triumphs. Although it may not always be our brightest moments, they are still true, so no one can argue there. I'm sometimes scared that when things start to go really well, that they won't last. That it's not me being undeserving but that I will fall back upon the past or assume something wrong is about to happen. Isn't healthy. Isn't right. It's just what's right now and I think you're in the process of seeing and understanding that. Making the recognition for New Rebecca! is a step in the direction and I think you should be excited for it :) Thanks for sharing. We all have our shadows and secrets, human is beautiful. {Insert my thoughts here}: Do we create this idea of normality in our mind, then say I will never or will definitely have that? What the hell is normal anyway?

I too, am echoing each reader that I’m happy you were brave and posted this. Honesty is raw and truth alone triumphs. Although it may not always be our brightest moments, they are still true, so no one can argue there.

I’m sometimes scared that when things start to go really well, that they won’t last. That it’s not me being undeserving but that I will fall back upon the past or assume something wrong is about to happen. Isn’t healthy. Isn’t right. It’s just what’s right now and I think you’re in the process of seeing and understanding that. Making the recognition for New Rebecca! is a step in the direction and I think you should be excited for it :) Thanks for sharing. We all have our shadows and secrets, human is beautiful.

]]> By: Elisa http://kontrary.com/2009/05/26/trying-isnt-good-enough/#comment-4519 Elisa Thu, 28 May 2009 01:22:29 +0000 http://kontrary.com/2009/05/26/trying-isnt-good-enough/#comment-4519 I'm so glad you re-posted this, and not just because I had the link to it in my most recent post! I empathize with this post SO much, yet I have not nearly had the trauma of losing a family member. In fact, I haven't really had any severe trauma in my relational life. Yet I adhere to a very similar mindset. I am always attracted to a "destined for failure" relationship, because that seems to good to be real generally is. In so many other parts of my life I'm a die hard optimist, but when it comes to dating I am always looking for the other shoe to drop. Always waiting for that time that something will happen to screw everything up and then *poof* it's gone. Thus my major sabotage efforts gear up and I'm out the door before they can hurt me. Normal, I am so far from it. Heck, that's why my branded tagline is "not-so-average girl-next-door" :) And I really worry for the poor fool who is just a nice, great guy who gets mixed up in the crazy that is me. I'm glad you were able to find a bit of normal in the absolute insanity of the abnormal for yourself, and wish you lots of good thoughts in the quest for breaking the mold you've lived in for these years. I'm working on the same. I’m so glad you re-posted this, and not just because I had the link to it in my most recent post! I empathize with this post SO much, yet I have not nearly had the trauma of losing a family member. In fact, I haven’t really had any severe trauma in my relational life. Yet I adhere to a very similar mindset. I am always attracted to a “destined for failure” relationship, because that seems to good to be real generally is. In so many other parts of my life I’m a die hard optimist, but when it comes to dating I am always looking for the other shoe to drop. Always waiting for that time that something will happen to screw everything up and then *poof* it’s gone. Thus my major sabotage efforts gear up and I’m out the door before they can hurt me.

Normal, I am so far from it. Heck, that’s why my branded tagline is “not-so-average girl-next-door” :) And I really worry for the poor fool who is just a nice, great guy who gets mixed up in the crazy that is me. I’m glad you were able to find a bit of normal in the absolute insanity of the abnormal for yourself, and wish you lots of good thoughts in the quest for breaking the mold you’ve lived in for these years. I’m working on the same.

]]> By: Mardhiah M http://kontrary.com/2009/05/26/trying-isnt-good-enough/#comment-4518 Mardhiah M Wed, 27 May 2009 09:03:50 +0000 http://kontrary.com/2009/05/26/trying-isnt-good-enough/#comment-4518 isn't it amazing how this feeling of unworthiness, of being wanted by someone else, connects people? it's not that we're not confident of ourselves, we are, but deep down, inside this modern gen ys lies a deep feeling of insecurity as we've gone thru experiences of being left by our loved ones (by death, divorce, sucky r'ships etc) so much so that when we feel something can be permanent, or last for a long time, we feel like something must be amiss. so i admit, i did feel this way back when i was in a relationship few months ago and i felt like i was the only one feeling like that! im really thankful u were able to share something so personal like this here. keep writing Rebecca, i love ur blog posts. :) isn’t it amazing how this feeling of unworthiness, of being wanted by someone else, connects people?

it’s not that we’re not confident of ourselves, we are, but deep down, inside this modern gen ys lies a deep feeling of insecurity as we’ve gone thru experiences of being left by our loved ones (by death, divorce, sucky r’ships etc) so much so that when we feel something can be permanent, or last for a long time, we feel like something must be amiss.

so i admit, i did feel this way back when i was in a relationship few months ago and i felt like i was the only one feeling like that! im really thankful u were able to share something so personal like this here. keep writing Rebecca, i love ur blog posts. :)

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