Comments on: One Guy, One Girl, Two Start-Ups and a Relationship http://kontrary.com/2010/01/14/one-guy-one-girl-two-start-ups-and-a-relationship/ Kontrary provides a different take on tech, media and life by Rebecca Thorman. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 02:58:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Marta http://kontrary.com/2010/01/14/one-guy-one-girl-two-start-ups-and-a-relationship/#comment-5820 Marta Thu, 01 Jul 2010 17:41:47 +0000 http://kontrary.com/?p=923#comment-5820 Seems like you two have a good grasp on things-- a possible power couple? Seems like you two have a good grasp on things– a possible power couple?

]]> By: The Young, Motivated & Unsatisfied | Modite http://kontrary.com/2010/01/14/one-guy-one-girl-two-start-ups-and-a-relationship/#comment-5819 The Young, Motivated & Unsatisfied | Modite Thu, 03 Jun 2010 03:35:26 +0000 http://kontrary.com/?p=923#comment-5819 [...] the venomous expose together. I felt sorry for her students. So very deeply sorry and guilty, but Ryan had left my side and I didn’t know anyone else at the party and I was stuck and uncomfortable and [...] [...] the venomous expose together. I felt sorry for her students. So very deeply sorry and guilty, but Ryan had left my side and I didn’t know anyone else at the party and I was stuck and uncomfortable and [...]

]]> By: John R. Sedivy http://kontrary.com/2010/01/14/one-guy-one-girl-two-start-ups-and-a-relationship/#comment-5818 John R. Sedivy Fri, 19 Feb 2010 09:12:32 +0000 http://kontrary.com/?p=923#comment-5818 Two important considerations about startups and achieving work/life balance that I have found in my experience. First, core, or set hours really don't exist in startups - performance is measured by value added or task completion. The benefit here is that you don't have to be at the office at a given time as long as the work gets done. The downside is that if you're not productive you can end up working a lot. Work smarter not harder. The second consideration is that, especially in a startup, it's important to know what to let slip. It's literally impossible to complete every task. Figure out what your boss or other key stakeholders value and knock those things out first and leave the others as secondary. Again, work smarter not harder. These are the keys I have found to success in a startup and achieving work/life balance. Two important considerations about startups and achieving work/life balance that I have found in my experience. First, core, or set hours really don’t exist in startups – performance is measured by value added or task completion. The benefit here is that you don’t have to be at the office at a given time as long as the work gets done. The downside is that if you’re not productive you can end up working a lot. Work smarter not harder.

The second consideration is that, especially in a startup, it’s important to know what to let slip. It’s literally impossible to complete every task. Figure out what your boss or other key stakeholders value and knock those things out first and leave the others as secondary. Again, work smarter not harder.

These are the keys I have found to success in a startup and achieving work/life balance.

]]> By: GL Hoffman http://kontrary.com/2010/01/14/one-guy-one-girl-two-start-ups-and-a-relationship/#comment-5817 GL Hoffman Sat, 30 Jan 2010 16:10:39 +0000 http://kontrary.com/?p=923#comment-5817 HI Rebecca---Nice article and well said. Interesting times we are in now, and I believe the next few years will be incredible as these new startups take hold and multiply. best, GL Hoffman HI Rebecca—Nice article and well said. Interesting times we are in now, and I believe the next few years will be incredible as these new startups take hold and multiply.
best,

GL Hoffman

]]> By: Friday Links « Stumbling Tongues http://kontrary.com/2010/01/14/one-guy-one-girl-two-start-ups-and-a-relationship/#comment-5816 Friday Links « Stumbling Tongues Fri, 29 Jan 2010 23:07:10 +0000 http://kontrary.com/?p=923#comment-5816 [...] One Guy, One Girl, Two Start-Ups and a Relationship | Modite — is there such a thing as balance? [...] [...] One Guy, One Girl, Two Start-Ups and a Relationship | Modite — is there such a thing as balance? [...]

]]> By: Voice in the Crowd http://kontrary.com/2010/01/14/one-guy-one-girl-two-start-ups-and-a-relationship/#comment-5815 Voice in the Crowd Thu, 21 Jan 2010 20:17:47 +0000 http://kontrary.com/?p=923#comment-5815 I can back up Grace. Work/Life "Balance" varies widely by industry. I work in science and I like my job a lot, but one of the benefits is that when I leave at 4, I'm done. I can go home, zone out, read, do chores, whatever, without having to worry about work. It allows me the time to do something else, so I don't dread going in the next day. I live in Boston, and I ride the subway. While most of the lines are under ground in the middle of the city, the come to the surface as they read the ends. It's really quite amazing to see just how fast people pull out their blackberries and iPhones as soon as we pull out of the tunnel and they get a signal. I can back up Grace. Work/Life “Balance” varies widely by industry. I work in science and I like my job a lot, but one of the benefits is that when I leave at 4, I’m done. I can go home, zone out, read, do chores, whatever, without having to worry about work. It allows me the time to do something else, so I don’t dread going in the next day.

I live in Boston, and I ride the subway. While most of the lines are under ground in the middle of the city, the come to the surface as they read the ends. It’s really quite amazing to see just how fast people pull out their blackberries and iPhones as soon as we pull out of the tunnel and they get a signal.

]]> By: Mobishr http://kontrary.com/2010/01/14/one-guy-one-girl-two-start-ups-and-a-relationship/#comment-5814 Mobishr Tue, 19 Jan 2010 17:17:07 +0000 http://kontrary.com/?p=923#comment-5814 I do agree to a large extent, but I think you are missing the point when you assume that bloggers themselves assume they are writers. Blogging simply enabled those who were before unable to publish their thoughts and expose their inner-selves to do so on a large scale. New media is not here to replace old media, it is just a new form of expression that empowered those who were previously ignored, it is a tool of folk-culture. How it affects old media is another question all together. I do agree to a large extent, but I think you are missing the point when you assume that bloggers themselves assume they are writers. Blogging simply enabled those who were before unable to publish their thoughts and expose their inner-selves to do so on a large scale. New media is not here to replace old media, it is just a new form of expression that empowered those who were previously ignored, it is a tool of folk-culture. How it affects old media is another question all together.

]]> By: Stanley http://kontrary.com/2010/01/14/one-guy-one-girl-two-start-ups-and-a-relationship/#comment-5813 Stanley Mon, 18 Jan 2010 06:51:00 +0000 http://kontrary.com/?p=923#comment-5813 @Rebecca, not that I don't want to be more social. In fact, there are opportunities available periodically for my last term in college. However, due to the fact that I'm still relatively attached to my grades (even though they don't mean or help much any more at this point), and curfews imposed, I haven't been all that social. I think it would help when school ends and I move out once I found some short term options. We'll see later on in the year. @Rebecca, not that I don’t want to be more social. In fact, there are opportunities available periodically for my last term in college. However, due to the fact that I’m still relatively attached to my grades (even though they don’t mean or help much any more at this point), and curfews imposed, I haven’t been all that social. I think it would help when school ends and I move out once I found some short term options. We’ll see later on in the year.

]]> By: Akirah http://kontrary.com/2010/01/14/one-guy-one-girl-two-start-ups-and-a-relationship/#comment-5812 Akirah Mon, 18 Jan 2010 04:42:05 +0000 http://kontrary.com/?p=923#comment-5812 I'd hafta say life...I think once you find the right gig, work can be challenging, but not as challenging as finding a healthy balance in life. Besides, finding that vocational fit is a huge aspect of life. I think when you're pursuing the right vocation and with the right person, you have no choice but to feel challenged and enriched, great feelings, I'm sure! I’d hafta say life…I think once you find the right gig, work can be challenging, but not as challenging as finding a healthy balance in life. Besides, finding that vocational fit is a huge aspect of life. I think when you’re pursuing the right vocation and with the right person, you have no choice but to feel challenged and enriched, great feelings, I’m sure!

]]> By: Elisa http://kontrary.com/2010/01/14/one-guy-one-girl-two-start-ups-and-a-relationship/#comment-5811 Elisa Sun, 17 Jan 2010 15:05:40 +0000 http://kontrary.com/?p=923#comment-5811 If there was a way to USB my Blackjack to my brain so that I could be continuously plugged in I would totally sign on for that experiment. They always say that you are a reflection of the friends you keep. While not having a BF in a start-up (or really, a committed BF at all) I am surrounded by friends that are ambitious in their own right but not crazy about it like I am. They are the friends that haul me away from my computer at 6 PM on a Saturday night for dinner or make me leave my cell phone in the car for the whole weekend while we are camping. They gently tease and berate me when I'm so inconsiderate as to be spending time with them and instead spend my time staring at my email. Because when you create a blur instead of a delineation you sometimes forget that others aren't blurring with you. I constantly have to remind myself that people are taking time out of THEIR lives to spend it with me. How can I NOT offer them the same consideration back? If there was a way to USB my Blackjack to my brain so that I could be continuously plugged in I would totally sign on for that experiment.

They always say that you are a reflection of the friends you keep. While not having a BF in a start-up (or really, a committed BF at all) I am surrounded by friends that are ambitious in their own right but not crazy about it like I am. They are the friends that haul me away from my computer at 6 PM on a Saturday night for dinner or make me leave my cell phone in the car for the whole weekend while we are camping. They gently tease and berate me when I’m so inconsiderate as to be spending time with them and instead spend my time staring at my email.

Because when you create a blur instead of a delineation you sometimes forget that others aren’t blurring with you. I constantly have to remind myself that people are taking time out of THEIR lives to spend it with me. How can I NOT offer them the same consideration back?

]]>