You know how in Eat Pray Love, the sage memoirist Elizabeth Gilbert summarizes entire cities and personalities into one singular word? New York City is predictably assigned Achieve, Stockholm receives Conform, and the word Attraversiamo, which means “let’s cross over” in Italiano, is eventually assigned to Gilbert herself.
Now there is even a Facebook group to one-word devotees, where the city Provo, UT gets Marry, and Jacksonville, FL is stuck with Ridiculous. But there’s no need to stop at cities and people. Much can be acutely summarized in one word – your dinner meal, a presidency, a TV show – and now, as the year comes to a close, the last 365 days.
I’d like to tell you my word for 2010 was Sex! or Moola-oh-la-la, but alas, my every day isn’t filled with lingerie and shopping. We can save those words for the The Real Housewives or perhaps, Penelope Trunk (I only jest).
No, this year brought about a reverie from anxious comparisons and slowly, but surely I learned to lean less on my measuring stick for support. Perhaps most revealing is that my lungs experienced the luxuriate familiarity of full and deep breaths again and again, sometimes for entire days.
People will often ask me how I like DC or what my relationship with Ryan is like, and I will reply, “I feel like I can finally breathe.” Shorthand, which I hope people understand to mean that Ryan and the city allow me to sink into more of myself. They allow me to be more of me. People will often say Comfort to describe being able to be themselves. But I think it is more than that, as it is also Challenge.
The dichotomy between comfort and challenge is where I found my word for 2010 sitting in flashing lights above my head as I pondered (and is also my sorry attempt at describing Love which selfishly eludes description).
It is not really a word to describe the entirety of 2010, but rather the result of each day following the day before it. The word is – Confidence. That is, this is the year I got my mojo back.
Hello, Mojo.
Incidentally, when I did this exercise last year, I expected the year of 2010 to be all about Friends, Social/Culture. Yes, that is how I wrote it, forward slash and all. Which is exactly what DC has been the past two months, plus a healthy dose of Family. Funny how things work out in the end.
(The year of 2009 carried the theme Ryan/Alice, Love is All Around in case you were wondering).
My choice for a feeling to carry me into 2011 is Follow-Through. It’s a dull choice perhaps, but also full of intention, continuance, and completion. And it has so many great translations from its literal definitions like “movement after the release,” and “continue until all motion of body has ceased,” – all of which are so lovely when you apply them not just to baseball or golf, but to the excruciating discipline of self.
So, cheers to that. And cheers to you, dear reader, and whatever word you have in mind for 2011.
In participation with #reverb10.
23 replies on “Just One Word”
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I don’t realize how much I miss your writing until you come out to post again, and I’m so glad you got reintroduced to your Mojo.
@ Marie – As one of the few bloggers that makes me laugh out loud, thank you for that. Means a lot :)
Agree with Marie. I was reading this and was like, “Please let her word be Iwillwritemorein2011.”
Well done, PT joke and all.
@ Sam – I gotta visit Nashville, y’all are great :) I do write…all the time. It’ s just most of it is crap. Ha. Thanks for being an inspiration and motivation to do more though.
I was going to leave a serious comment – but now I’m just leaving a comment to continue this Nashville domination in the comments. (How many more times can I use the word “comments”)
Yes, write more, and yes, come visit Nashville. Sam and Marie and myself will show you a good time.
And, good stuff here – looking forward to reading your #reverb10 posts!
@ Matt – Haha, yay! I’m going to seriously consider a trip. I knew about #reverb10, but reading your first post is actually what inspired me to join the club – so thank ya!
Loved this post and welcome to DC :) It’s definitely a city that brings out the best in me as well. Glad you feel the same!
And yes, please write more in 2011!!
I’m still hanging on the fact that someone chose to label my hometown as ridiculous. I hope he/she meant it in the best way possible because Jacksonville is pretty flipping fantastic despite suffering from multiple personality disorder. :)
As always, beautifully written. We’re so happy to have you here in D.C. – see you tonight!
@ DC Princess – Ah, love DC! We will have to meet up soon, as one of my favorite things about the city is there are so many bloggers – whoo!
@ Meg – Eek! It wasn’t me! I did think that was funny – obviously that women was NOT happy with where she lives. I am so looking forward to tonight – see you soon and thanks for the comment :)
Great post, great writing, great perspective. With all the blaring din and clamor of our lives, where words are strewn and tossed about, left motionless in our virtual and mental gutters, it’s a wonderful exercise in precision to focus 365 days of purpose and intent into one single word. Thanks for this post! Best of luck with your follow-through, and keep us updated on your progress!
@ Karina – Thanks for the comment! I didn’t think about it that way – i.e., clearing the clutter – but that’s a lovely way to frame it.
I’m so glad you’re writing again! I don’t cook, so when you post recipes I just look longingly at my computer and try not to lick the screen. Best wishes for 2011!
@ Harriet – Thanks! I’m glad you enjoy the recipes – does your boyfriend cook? Ryan has been cooking more and it has been quite nice I have to say :)
So awesome to see that you’re feeling more comfortable being you, and especially that in a new city that you seem to have acclimated to so well. If I could pick a word for you, it would definitely be “thrive.”
Great post, Rebecca — I echo everyone’s sentiments that it’s great to see you writing here again!
@ Susan – Thanks! That’s so sweet. It’ s nice to hear since that’s not always how I feel, but working on it for sure :)
So exciting! Cant wait for 2011. I am glad you are feeling comfortable! I think my goal for 2011 is similar to yours – Follow-through and execute.
2010 was independence; 2011 is fulfillment. WHY in 2010 – built my own business and couldn’t be dependent on anyone else but ME. Also, started traveling about 50% of the month and learned to be more independent of my husband. 2011: looking to be fulfilled by work and life. Everyone else calls it ‘balance’, but I say “fulfilled”
I love your posts!!!!! So glad you wrote this. Great choice of word for 2010, you’ve got me thinking of what mine would be. Glad the move went well and you are finding your confidence. All the best for 2011 :)
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[…] learned about Reverb10 from Rebecca Thorman’s blog, Modite. She wrote a thoughtful response to their first prompt: Encapsulate the year 2010 in one word. Explain why you’re choosing that […]
Moola-oh-la-la, thats my fav. I think I must come up with a word for 2011. Is it too late????