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Personal branding, accountability, and how to just be yourself already

I’ve worked hard over the past two years to change my image. I used to dumb myself down, play my looks up. It was easier that way. I didn’t have to buy any drinks in college, for instance. That was my brand, an image that wasn’t who I was or wanted to be. But it worked, so I kept on.

Until my boyfriend told me I wasn’t interesting enough. Until I came home from a meeting one day, furious for not speaking my mind. Until I had one scary frickin’ visit to the ER. Yeah, those life-threatening events, they’ll get you every time.

I sat down to think about who I really was, proceeded to have a quarter-life crisis, and made some tough decisions. They weren’t decisions that were visible. I didn’t quit my job, or become celibate, or move across the country to pursue reality television. But I did slowly, painfully, change and start to brand myself differently.

Personal branding is your personality, who you are as an individual and “the sum of other brands that you either own, work for or touch in some distinct way.” It’s about being you, and marketing the heck out of it.

You, who is reliably manipulative, can’t make a commitment if your life depended on it, and won’t go to bed until you clear the next level in your video game. You, who is only working until you have a baby, hopefully two, so you can stay at home and take care of your family. You, who works eighty hours a week and must separate your jelly beans into color-respective piles before eating.

Branding is marketing those very gems of your personality. That’s not hard to do. Just be yourself. If you’re acting like someone you’re not, then it will come back to haunt you, like when the infatuation wears off in a relationship, and it is at that moment your girlfriend finds your box of hair-regeneration pills in your underwear drawer. Whoever you are, it’s really hard to change, so you win by just being you from the start.

And sometimes, inevitably, you lose. Like this guy.

Branding is inextricably linked to accountability. If you do a good enough job of marketing yourself a certain way, people will start to believe you. So much so that when you mess up, or step out of your brand, it will make others uncomfortable.

I wouldn’t worry too much about this. Instead, focus on how you define accountability and your own comfort level with your actions.

Our lives are out in the open for all to see. Who you are at your job is who you are at the bar is who you are at the gym is who you are during sex is who you are at the company picnic is who you are at, well, you get the idea. Politicians do cheat on their wives. CEOs are bad parents. Artists are erratic friends. So, what? They’re good at their passions, and at the end of the day, we’re all doing the best we can in the circumstances given.

Your image reflects on your company, friends, and family. You, however, need to be accountable to yourself first. If you’re dancing on the tables at the bar, and worried about getting caught, either you have something personally wrong, or you need to find a different job that accepts your lack of inhibition. If your Facebook photos might get you in trouble, take them down, or decide you want to work at a place where they don’t care about that sort of thing.

The lines between work and play are increasingly blurring, and if you’re one person during the day and a different one at night you have to be proud enough to market the heck out of it. If you’re not comfortable, you need to learn more about who you are. You are in control of your brand.

My mother used to tell me, “Remember who you are,” whenever I left the house. People with integrity and confidence don’t worry about “getting caught,” because they know who they are. They know that dancing on tables is acceptable to them, or that their Facebook pictures show another layer of their onion. And if it’s not okay to them, they act accordingly.

In summary, to rock the branding/accountability boat:

1. Know yourself.
2. Be yourself.
3. Love it.
4. Repeat.

By the way, I still enjoy receiving free drinks, because I’ve realized I’m okay with using my looks… Sometimes.

Be yourself, or perish, yo.

By Rebecca Healy

My goal is to help you find meaningful work, enjoy the heck out of it, and earn more money.

41 replies on “Personal branding, accountability, and how to just be yourself already”

I think you’ve hit the nail on the head. Part of the problem with people branding themselves is – they don’t know who they are.

I also think personal branding is pursuit some people flat out don’t aspire to. Take, for example, the nasty comments people leave on the blogs of prominent thinkers. They just want to be mean and anonymous, and not have to deal with personal accountability, because that’s fun for them. But they don’t get that their efforts don’t have credibility because they aren’t putting themselves out there. So in the end, was the effort even worth their time?

But as you mentioned, who you are is who you are. I personally want to live the kind of life that I’m proud for everyone I interact with to see – whether it’s at work or online or with friends or at dinner.

@ Tiffany – Thank you for your thoughtful comment. I think that people who anonymously leave comments are still branding, but in a different way. But you’re right, they are not interested in accountability. However, if that’s the bar that they’ve set for themselves, then who am I to admonish them? People make choices and we only have control over our own actions.

@ Ryan- Thank you!

I think the concept of being you at all times is increasingly important, especially for young people. We can’t hide anymore. If you do something dumb at the bar, chances are it will be on Facebook. You can untag it, but someone could stumble onto it. Just look at Ms. New Jersey.

So dont do anything too stupid, but dont hide who you are. If someone doesnt like it then it’s their loss. I think the hardest part is figuring out who YOU really are. Once that is taken care of the rest is easy.

BTW – I would buy you a drink, and I have never seen you.

Keep up the good posts.

-Ryan

Thanks, Ryan. Maybe when you do see me, you won’t want to buy me a drink- haha! No, in all seriousness, take the case of Ms. New Jersey. I think it took a lot of guts for her to release the pictures on the news and then choose to be interviewed about it. She was apologetic, but also kind of said, look, this is me. And then all the reporters agreed the pictures weren’t that bad.

I’m going to post something later today on how to figure out who you are – stay tuned!

Since I’m in the real estate business I thought you might find it interesting to know there’s a company that specializes in personal brand marketing for realtors. http://www.hobbsherder.com I went to one of their seminars and the entire first day of the seminar was devoted to figuring out who we are as individuals. What get’s us excited, what motivates us, etc.. Only if you can identify who you “truly are” then you can develop a marketing plan that fits your core demographic of who you best relate to. When buying or selling a house I think that it’s most important that people work with an agent that they are comfortable with.

@ Dan- Thank you for your kind comments. I appreciate it especially coming from a personal branding expert!

@ Josh- I tried to get your website to work only to mess up the formatting somehow- sorry! Anyway, thanks for sharing the information about branding and realtors. I think that’s great advice because clients or customers can sense if you are not comfortable with you and that can be bad on business, certainly.

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I think you got yourself a manifesto.
Although, I have to wonder about the journey. You hurry up and by the age of 20 you know who you are and by the age of 25 you realize you are your journey. You change every day, every second. Which parts of you are truly consistent? Not to mention doing something at 20 which will embarrass you at 25 (even if it’s not really embarrassing, it may turn out to be professionally inappropriate).
Also, a question: How do you brand yourself? in the practical sense, I mean.
Inspiring post,
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Rebecca, this is a great post on branding and personal marketing, and I agree with most everything in there.

My 2c is that everyone develop their core VALUES, which never (or rarely change), and from there use your values to guide your life. A core value would be something simple like honesty; can you value honesty and be both a professional by day and a party animal at night? Yes, of course. The value never changes, but your “frame” or sub-personality may adapt to the environment. Nothing wrong with that. Adaptability is a quintessential human trait.

My core values include honesty, fun (works day and night), passion, and respect.

Cheers,

Rebecca, your writing is thought provoking and always hits the right note with me!

I am sure everyone out there who earnestly wants to ‘be who they really are’ in all situations in life, find it a struggle to adhere to that motto every time and in every situation in life and with every separate set of people we know. It is a constant image management struggle personally, between appearing like I conform and coming across as someone who has a strong opinion about things (which is being ‘me’ !).

This conflict amplified for me since I moved to the US less than a year ago from India. And the problem with living in a different culture at age 26, when you more or less know who you are, is that it’s such a huge challenge to be able to make a personal connection with someone without having to oppose your personal beliefs and approach to people and life.

I hope I hit the right note soon :-)

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Wya to go! Just like with companies, a brand should start with authenticity. Otherwise if the brand promise you are making does not align with the brand reality, you have what I call in my upcoming book a “brand identity crisis.” Brand is not about logos or colors or fonts alone – it’s about delivering a promise to customers (or employers or colleagues….) and then walking your talk. Thanks Rebecca!

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Just discovered your blog and I am loving it! Out of all the infromation I read on personal branding I think this is one of the best articles that explains how to identify yourself and then act on it! Great job and thank you!

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